Dealing with Failures

Monday, August 31, 2009
Achievements may add more confident to an individual, but failure to achieve might destroy one's self-esteem. Dealing with achievement might be easy, contrary in dealing with failures. Failures lessen self confidence, destroy self motivation, and affect an individual's character.

Failure is an absence of expected action or performance, in other words, failure in achieving something or one's goal. It might be difficult to face failures, or to accept its reality, but letting yourself to be affected with failures will lead to total destruction.

There is a saying that "Failure to prepare is preparing yourself to fail”. This idea might be the reason why we experience failures. If we are aiming for something we must give our full commitment. We must exert effort and learn to sacrifice. There is no such thing as easy in this world. Hard work together with faith to our God is the best key to success.

Failures might cause pain, but pain always produces endurance, if we face it positively. I believe that all things are created for a reason. Failure might exist to teach us lessons, to remind us to humble ourselves, and to awake us in our wrong motives.

Love at First Sight?

Thursday, August 13, 2009


Love might be confusing, but there is one thing that the science of love is quite clear about. There is no such thing as love at first sight.

Human personality is much too complex for that instant insight determines love. Real love requires full knowledge for you to accept one's whole being. You need enough time to discover some one's behavior, and not that through quick, casual contacts.

To top it all, there is a need for you to evaluate carefully the total whole being of the person you like, and you can't find that out in a flash of an eye, it take months or even years.

Is This LOve?

Wednesday, August 12, 2009



Is this really love?


or just a Strong appreciation.


is This for real?


or i'm just Hoping for nothing.


am I really in love?


or i just need Sympathy.


will it Last?


or it will not take Over.


will it turn into Vain?


or it might for Eternal.


"Trust n Relationship"

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

Trust is one of the foundations of every relationship. To trust is to believe and to be comfortable to be with someone. If trust started to fade the relationship will follow. Like in preparing a dish, trust is an important ingredient in any form of relationship, even in the beginning of friendship, trust must be establish first.



I am one of the victims of mistrustfulness. It happened when my friends and I decided to have a celebration after our final examination last school year. I thought it would be the best time for bonding, but it turned out that I lost a friend because of a wrong accusation.



He himself accused me of stealing of one of his gadget. At first I considered it nothing but as a joke, but when he started to threaten me, I began to have notion that he didn't trust me. His wrong accusation is a slap, a manifestation that there is no friendship between the two of us. More the pain of accusing me a thief is when I felt that some of my classmates started to have doubt on me.


When His done accusing me, he left the resort with a warning that he will report the incident to the police station. After a few minutes, he came back and asked me again, and I answered nothing. Until he found out that his lost gadget was just in one of his closest friend, who was making fun on him.


I admit that I hated him for what he did. But thanks are to God for His grace, I was able to forgive him though he didn't ask for it. After that incident, I would say that my relationships with him really change.


Sometimes I still feel the pain of what he did, specially when I get insulted every time he approach me in his often greeting- " Hi Ron! Kiss ko lalat!". I feel that it is his way of disrespecting me, especially when he does it in public. But for the peace sake, I rather not to confront him, and stay calm and remain silent, because even though he is not my friend, I don't want him to be my enemy.

"Love Poem"


you're a Honey in my lips,

an Aroma in my breath,

a Joy in my hearth,

and an Instrument in my ear.

you're a Refreshment in my desert,

an Ore to my field

and a warm Night to my rainy day.


you're a Magic in my eyes,

who makes me Yearn for your touch.

you're a Haven in my trouble

and a cure to my Oblivion.

you're Near when I'm far,

and you're Everywhere when

You're not around.